You’re in a relationship or you’re single, and life is good. You feel like you’ve been maturing gradually, school work is basically on point, and you and the parents are actually on a normal level of understanding. Things are sweet, right?

Yea, there are no problems, except there is this box in the corner of your bedroom or a bag hidden under your bed or at the top of your closet.

Hidden away from the rest of the world, you’ve saved little love notes, movie ticket stubs, ice cream napkins, even the infamous red-and-white teddy bear with the “I love you” heart. Yes, you know the one.

And most important among your hidden treasures are your prized pictures, the ones you’ve looked at over and over and over again until you know each one by heart. Your shoebox of memories: innocent reminders or fanning the flame for the ex?

For those currently in a relationship, the new person is everything you have been looking for. Things are going good and you keep no secrets … then why are you hugging the teddy bear Justin gave you last year? There is something holding you to this object that you just do not want to admit.

Now some of you will say, “Well, ah get accustom to it so is small ting,” but doh give me that. This bear is a symbol of a relationship past, and furthermore, if the stuffed toy has no strings attached, why after you sleep with it are you tossing it in a basket and then putting clothes over it?

Now don’t feel that you get away. Yes, you. Miss Independent Woman or gangsta for life. I don’t remember independence having to do with depending on pictures of your ex to comfort you when your boyfriend messes up.

Or Mr. Tupac Resurrected, that is only a DVD because you very well know you have been keeping Tracy’s pictures in a hidden file on your computer so you can visit it whenever you want to reminisce on all that you loved about her without Lavita going straight psycho on you.

Then, there is Mr. And Mrs. Stuck. For some reason, this person just has “It” or you’ve invested so much that you just can’t move on. He was your first everything, she was the only one who really put up with you, and now you are just stranded, a fish out of water.

So you’re not even hiding it; you have a scrapbook with all their letters in your bag, you have their picture framed and on your study desk (but you’re wondering why you’re getting one letter in your report card).

Some of you say it’s all about keeping memories to learn from them, to remember your past and why you have moved on. No scene, I feel you completely. However, I know for sure that some of you are in major denial.

You love your life now, whether you are single or in a new relationship, but still there is this rope, pulling you, sucking you in, and you just can’t help it.

Remember, though, when the dust starts to affect you, it is your choice, and if keeping these symbols of the past does not complicate your current situation, then hey, do you, but when yuh start to sneeze ... it eh no swine flu!

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