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| Written by Kerry Peters—Aug 13, 2010 |
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A lower-six student of Naparima Girls' High School committed suicide this morning because she was distraught over the results of her CAPE examinations. This is not the first time a link has been established between the exams and adolescent suicide. In 2008, 19-year-old Martin Joseph, a student of Toco Composite at the time, hanged himself with an electrical cord attached to a rafter in his bedroom, after getting depressed over CAPE exams. Kalyzan Beharry turned 18 on Feb 1 this year and got her results yesterday, hours after they were released by the Ministry of Education to school principals. Some time this morning she hanged herself at her Gulf View, San Fernando home. The tragedy has left her friends shocked, confused and depressed. "She was like one of my best friends. Actually, things had happened that caused a big rift between Kalyzan and I last year, then I went through some things and she was there for me, 'cuz that was hard, and we got closer," said a friend who wished to remain anonymous. The Student Press learnt that Kalyzan only just returned from a two-week trip to Washington and New York, USA where she took part in a Global Young Leaders Conference (GYLC). "She came back Sunday and seemed good. I spoke to her on Monday and she said she had so much fun and everything," our source said. It was not clear exactly how Kalyzan did at the examinations she sat two months ago but it has been confirmed that she sat Unit 1 of Physics, Chemistry and Math. Kalyzan was your regular fun-loving teen. She loved music — her favourites were Evanescence and Good Charlotte — she liked to lime at the Gulf City mall and she had a boyfriend and a thing for purple. Everything seemed normal sources said. "Her mom was even cool with her boyfriend and everything and he is a good guy." The teen lived with her pharmacist mother and according to reports, her father has not been around for most of her life. The Student Press could not confirm if the parents are divorced. While suicide — teen suicide in particular — remains a social taboo here in T&T, a June 2004 report by Akleema Ali and Dr. Hari Maharajh of the deparment of psychiatry, University of the West Indies (UWI), found that suicide is one of the leading causes of death among adolescents and pointed to gender differences relative to suicide and suicide attempts. "In Trinidad and Tobago, the presentation of suicidal ideation and attempts was dominated by females. Females had higher mean SIQ (Symptom Interpretation Questionnaire) scores compared to males (29.64 vs. 21.74) and higher rates of suicide attempts compared to males (9.8 % vs. 4.5%)." [Ali & Maharajh, Social predictors of suicidal behaviour in adolescents in Trinidad and Tobago, 2004, p.189]. The Student Press was unable to get a comment about the tragedy from the communications division at the Ministry of Education.
____________ CORRECTION: The original version of this post erroneously stated that Kalyzan sat Unit 2 CAPE subjects when in fact she sat Unit 1. The post has been updated with the correct information.
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written by Predilla Gopee , August 14, 2010 Wow, people please think about your actions before you do it, someting of that nature or anything as a matter of fact is not worth taking your life, there is always someone to go to for help and if not, turn to God. My heart and condolences go out to her family and friends, may she rest in peace.
disappointed.
written by smiles , August 14, 2010 she sat unit 1 cape.....i would like to kno if you all have solid proof that she did this because of results...i am so disappointed with news bodies right now...it just not right that something like this should make news headlines...
Its really sad
written by EMMARICA HOULDER , August 14, 2010 I really wished that she had wrk things out b4 doin such thing but wat can i say now its too late but im jus hoping no one else do such thing ......R.I.P.
Imprudence
written by Shawn , August 14, 2010 she is very incompetent due to the fact that she has no gratitude for life, existence. the results of an exam are trivial in comparison to a living, breathing human being. her actions has shown that she was not brought up with the fear of God. no matter what problems you face, nothing is greater than God. i think the loss of a young girl is extremely sad and it shows how important friendship is and to always be there, in good times and especially in bad. Because God doesn't give you more than you could handle. for all yuh know her mother cud probably have exerted 2 much pressure on her which maybe lead to an emotional breakdown which steered her in the direction of perversity. May she R.I.P.
Inaccurate Info
written by triniguy , August 14, 2010 dude..it wasnt "this morning" it was last night..god..reporters quick to get some kinda attention..even if they anonymous and they dont have all d blasted facts.
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written by Adama Wiltshire , August 14, 2010 This is really sad and unfortunate. There needs to be full recognition of the effects of depression among young people and more care should be taken to provide competent support for students during and after major examinations.
hmm
written by Human Being , August 14, 2010 You have no evidence that this is the reason why she committed suicide. quote "It was not clear exactly how Kalyzan did at the examinations she sat two months ago but it has been confirmed that she sat Unit 2 of Physics, Chemistry and Math." you are Saying that you don't even know how she did. Yet you are saying she did badly and committed suicide? Secondly,thank you for rushing with possibly inaccurate dates and rushing to print your story before deciding to get good information.(most friends claim it happened yesterday) Lastly,you could have in the least bit,wrote something to comfort loved ones (Not even a may she rest in peace) As well as at least something to encourage others not to do it. Better luck with your next article. Love and respect to the families and friends of Kalyzan Beharry.I do not know her but i still feel the sorrow **RIP Kalyzan Beharry**
ease ya body
written by Kimberly , August 14, 2010 while it is a sad story and sum of the info mightnt be right. still... oh gorm is student press... they learnin doe be mean when giving feedback it have other ways. so ease ya body and fine a diff way to give constructive criticism. and MY CONDOLENCES
student pres
written by UWI , August 14, 2010 nothing is wrong with your reporting. This is not a eulogy! u dont hear any of the reporters on tv saying rip!~ so keep doing what you are doing and raising awareness on teen issues. To me it doesn't matter y she did it. U didn't give life you can't take it and who vex wd dat loss!
mall rat
written by Boy Girl Man Woman , August 14, 2010 hmmm is there a linkage between mall rats and failed exams? being from a single parent home coupled with stress from he b/f....thats y she did what she did. imagine this girl went young leaders convention and did drastically bad in her exams? jerkyl n hyde may i presume. what a waste of god given fortune girl. RIP
PPL COME ON!!!
written by Objective Person , August 14, 2010 Why should the student press reporter right to comfort the parents??? What are they emotional healers??? No!!! they are reporters and they must right without emotion and without any opinion! if u want to comfort the parents then u write them a personal note!!! Suicide is nothing to be comforted about anyways it is personal decision of the person... that person feels like doing such a thing then hard luck for them! Life moves on! the parents should blame themselves either! Nor should the CXC board!!! and yall didn't even think for a minute that they didn't want to blast her passes for the world to see... give the dead girl a lil privacy
i understand
written by angela , August 14, 2010 you people need to stop judging no one knows the reason for her suicide. this young lady may have been suffering from clinical depression and this was probably her breaking point. idk the thing is that none of us know why she did it so all of you who have never gone through this illness or even those who have are in no position to be saying things like she was very incompetent and foolish things like that. none of us know the burden that the other has to bear so we need to at least feel some kind of sympathy for this fragile girl who was unable to deal with the stresses that most of us are able to bear. r.i.p kalyzan i hope that your passing could raise some awareness in this country and offer hope to those people who are in similair situations
ammm
written by Chrissy D , August 14, 2010 to go to gylc...u had to be BRIGHT an doin VERY well in school...soo...it cud NEVER be for cape results.... i dont agree dat he shud b comfortin cus on d news or d express i dont hear "man killed by his wife..may he r.i.p" am no eh nex ting too....d girl kill herself las nite in addition mentionin dat she listens to evanescence an my chemical romance...da was necessary? NO...but u tried to stereotype d girl..emo-suicidal-confused teen ent? im quite sure..that she does not listen to these religiously and she has taste for other genres nex ting..u did not investigate this matter entirely ...readin it feels like listenin to the village gossip..wit quotes an heresy dere are pros an cons but at d end of d day d pint is..that young ppl suppose to read dis an get dat chill up dere spine dat will make dem stop an think nex time dey ponder about din sum crap like dis but may the holyfather forgive her peace
waw
written by me and i , August 14, 2010 we dont know wat happened, we dont know the truth, all we know is that u left too soon, RIP my friend, u will b missed.. to the reporters...... do some friggin investigating and stop guessing on such topics, this is somthing serios, nobody want to hear abt unconfirmed this an dat.
RIP Kaly...
written by Moe J , August 14, 2010 i cannot believe you people! it never said anything about failing CAPE exams...so dont judge! get ur facts right! she died LAST NIGHT! not this morning! i knew Kalyzan...a wonderful girl with High Aspirations! still cant believe she would do something like this...i really feel it for her mother though! she saw her when she died n im sure she won't be able to get that image out of her head! i pray for her! Love You Kaly...gone forever...never forgotten!
ADVICE :-)
written by me , August 14, 2010 This is soo sad!! R.I.P but just a word of advice: Life is NOT just about going 2 the best schools, passing CXC/CAPE, having a bf, partying, getting the best job n having all the money in the world..... Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that having these stuff are bad. But the most important thing is 2 accept JESUS CHRIST in ur life n live 4 Him. All good things will follow after. If u have JESUS, u have EVERYTHING....
RIP 'Kaly'
written by Miley Cyrus , August 14, 2010 Hmmmm look how all 'Kaly' friends could come on now and try to tell us when she died...{thanks for the info friends } they could now tell us that it wasn’t due to her results...{yeah you all are her friends so you all know the reason why} and who should do a good investigation.....{do you want to do the report instead? }......My my my come on nah friends of ‘Kaly’ at the end of the day its 'Naps girl kill her self- it can’t get better than that OK this is a serious matter here!!!! The late Kalyzan Beharry alone could tell what was hurting and she didn’t see any other way but I hope you all know about that fear of God and turning to him in times of trouble…. Kaly just didn’t lay her burden down and moved on in life. I just hope you friends of 'Kaly' learn from this ok…………..bless
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written by riaaz , August 14, 2010 sad day when a life goes in vain under whatever circumstances........ Alhamdulillah
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written by xxSmDbxx , August 14, 2010 oh..so here it goes..all about luvin jesus n shit.... newayz i just wanted to say to all you people who judge the girl...whatever was her purpose you really shouldn't be bothered because all that matters now is that she's in a better place...much better than what she might've had to be going through if she waz alive atm.. xxRIP gurlxx
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written by Dylan Dhanpaul , August 14, 2010 Firstly, have respect. Secondly Respect privacy. Thirdly have common sense. Half of this "article" is inaccurate. However, this article is not required. Whatever this person who goes by the name "Kerry Peters" has accomplished by posting this article, I hope it made him more "journalistic" as he sought it fit to write this article..... Next time bro have respect for others and realise the people who are her friends and family are hurting and don't need you turning their loved one into a "hobby"... Great Job in pissing her friends and family off....
Get ur facts right!!
written by Hope , August 14, 2010 Excuse me..not to be rude...but this occurred yesterday...last night to be exact (12.08.10)...and she wrote UNIT 1 CAPE...she had not done badly...but the type of girl Kaly was...so into her work...it hit her hard..As usual...we cant determine the main cause...due to the fact that there are many other reasons as to why one must do such a thing..it was a build up of several moments of depression..and frustrations..and im sure each and every one was hidden with a smile..that's how i remember her to be..a jolly girl...smiling all the time..no matter what. Kaly..we love u very much...I know ur in a happier place now...and ur at peace..u were a great friend...and u'd surely be missed and never forgotten.
poor journalism
written by fanny , August 14, 2010 question: how is her havin a bf and her mom bein ok with him even slightly related to the point of d article? did someone say wannabe gossip column? this is a disgrace. also, get your facts straight before you decide to write a column... this is an insult to her memory and the author should be ashamed of him/herself. to clarify: she was an amazing individual, heart of gold... the best and most supportive friend a girl could ask for. needless to say, she was loved dearly. and i wish she were here so i could tell her so one last time.
Ignorant Fools!
written by Simply Disgusted! , August 14, 2010 To all of you who doesn't know the child please refrain from commenting. Your opinion is not needed and since none of you are reporters and don't know... simple solution don't talk! To the person who left the comment titled mall rat get your facts since you obviously don't know what is going on...The article itself is filled with fallacies! To Shawn SHUT UP! you didn't know this child! You fool!For young adults the quality of opinions presented here saddens me!!
Expand your Thinking
written by AAli , August 14, 2010 I have read everybody's comments all which are quite sincere and expresses everybody's varied views about what happened. As a researcher who has dealt alot with suicide and suicidal thinking in adolescents, I offer the following for you all to think about... Suicide and suicidal thinking is a real complex issue. It is never simple expecially when it comes to answering the biggest question...WHY? We will never know the mulititude of thoughts and concerns that Kalyzan had for however long a period of time, no matter how well she did in school or accomplished during her life. One thing remains for certain - she had lost all hope. One of my favorite authors of Suicide, Schneidman (1996) analyzed and came up with 10 commonalities that all suicides have: 1. The common purpose of suicide is to seek a solution 2. The common goal of suicide is cessation of consciousness 3. The common stimulus of suicide is unbearable psychological pain 4. The common stressor in suicide is frustrated psychological needs 5. The common emotion in suicide is hopelessness-helplessness 6. The common cognitive state in suicide is constriction 7. The common cognitive state in suicide is ambivalence 8. The common action in suicide is escape 9. The common interpersonal act in suicide is communication of intention 10. The common pattern in suicide is consistency of lifelong styles Like I said it is a complex matter but the bigger issue is that is a major concern for alot of teens and I do hope that more can be done to help reach out and support all teens who have suicidal thinking before it is too late. Hope this gives you something to think about. My condolences go out to her family and loved ones.
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written by Marisa Maharaj , August 14, 2010 I was a Naps girl, I played piano, I was in the President's Awards Scheme (It's an extremely challenging and stressful program, we used to go on these 10 hour hikes). I would like to give people a glimpse into my life. It was a sad time in my life. I was in a lot of pain and I could understand why because everyone thought my life was great. Truthfully I was disappointed when I arrived at Naparima Girls. I had worked so hard to get into it, and I was looking forward to it, and I thought that I would be very challenged there. Instead I was just handed this huge amount of not that challenging/engaging "work". I felt almost like I got punished for being smart. In addition a lot of my friends and family acquaintances were jealous of me and assumed that I thought I was better than them, while in fact I was deeply traumatized and to some extent feel guilty about the fact that unlike many of my primary school classmates and best friends, I had gotten into my first choice whereas they hadn't. There was no one to understand far less help me deal with this. In addition I had to deal with a lot of sexism from my parents and society at large. I discovered that older Indian women do not treat younger Indian women very well, they are often jealous and mean to them and not very compassionate. Everybody knows that, particularly in East Indian culture, people cherish and dote on their sons more than their daughters. (A practical example of this from my time (I'm 26 now so this was about 7 years ago) was the fact that, the girls at Naparima were under considerably more stress than the boys, it was well known that the Naps boys teachers were the better teachers so while the Naps boys simply went to class, the Naps girls had to deal with the frustration of going to class and then spending hours and hours afterwards then going for extra lessons from the Naps boys teachers i.e. Fayed Ali and the rest. Looking back I suppose this is relatively reflective of what a girl's life will be later on if she works and has a family, both she and husband spend all day at work and then she comes home and does the additional work of housekeeping, dinner, childrearing while he relaxes after working all day, so perhaps it is not that bad that young women come to get used to working twice as hard as the guys from the start.) When I was at Naparima I often felt like no one cared about or cherished me, except for my brain and how my brain could help them. This made me very sad. I am sure if I had had more supportive parents this would have made a difference but still it would have been difficult. I thought about suicide a lot. But at the time I was religious and people in church has prophesied that I would have twins, "do work for God" and various other things. I remember reasoning bitterly, "Crazy person that God is he would probably arrange for me to be like one of those people that tries to kill themselves and then lives talking about God from a wheelchair with a hole in their face for the rest of their life." Yeah my brain looks at things in a different way, but maybe that saved me. I decided I had no desire to do that from a wheelchair, so since I reasoned that I didn't have the power to kill myself and would probably only end up worse off, I did not bother to try. This is a very very long post but I also wanted to say that, the young women in Naparima Girls largely have not learnt that they can deal with failure and still survive and have people cherish and be compassionate towards them. There is an illusion that these young women have a lot of power and a privileged life but actually at this stage of their lives they have very little power, they are dependent and vulnerable (society has figured out they have something of use to it, a brain while it hasn't yet reached the point of cherishing women for their intrinsic worth) and they largely have to just accept what they are dealt by demanding teachers, parents and society and try to do the best they can with it. Looking at the few pictures of Kalyzan that have been posted including her facebook profile which is the first thing I came upon when I googled her, she does not look happy. Her eyes look a bit dead, maybe a little angry. As the popular saying goes, "every skinned teeth is not a grin."
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written by fanny , August 14, 2010 To Kerry Peters: I understand the need for objectivity and straightforwardness in a journalistic report. I appreciate that the author must show no bias and give no opinion. However, I have also come to appreciate tastefulness when it comes to the presentation of information in this manner, and would dearly love for you develop the same appreciation in your writing. We, the friends and family, do not expect you to send out your condolences via Student Press article, but we admit that it would have been preferable for you be more careful with your words and phrasing, and also with the accuracy of the information you collected. As it stands, in the rush to produce this article, you compromised your journalistic integrity and unwittingly added to the hurt and pain that the loved ones of the deceased are currently experiencing. To avoid a similar outcome in future, I humbly suggest that your sources be bona fide, that the information you collect be correct AND related to the topic at hand, and that you link your ideas in a more tasteful manner. This is a very emotional time for all of those involved, and you may just end up finding yourself on the receiving end of that emotion, which already seems to be the case. I am truly sorry to say that by your neglect of proper journalistic etiquette, you have lost the Student Press some of their most avid readers, yours truly being one of them. To all of those expressing their condolences, the family and friends of Kalyzan Beharry thank you for your support and ask that you keep her and all of us in your prayers.
Life
written by Andesha Elder (20 yrs) , August 14, 2010 Having an education is exceptional but not all can aquire it for various reasons. Some waste their educational opportunities whilst others mature at each stage. In our educational career, there are failures and successes. People deal with these two quite differently. The hardest one to deal with is failure but taking one's life is not the most fit way to deal with it. God alone knows the reasons behind this young lady's story and he is the only one to deal with the situation. My fellow youths, please disregard the thought of suicide at any point in your life because there are other ways to deal with life on a whole. Remember that there is still hope. PS. My sucess story and your success story may not be the same, in that we may not have accomplished the same goals but the fact remains, we both still have a success story. Be proud of your life no matter what, persevere to the end. Nobody is saying that life is easy but keep on holding on and you would make it. My youths, we all have to learn from this tragic story and talk to your friends more often so that none of this would happen again.
stop fighting over it
written by K.C. , August 14, 2010 very sad news. thanks to all who informed of inaccurate information. i urge readers to try to make more polite comments. i too have questions on the journalistic skill applied to this article but will save them for now. i doubt that the aim of the article was to cause a blog-war of sorts or to insult or misrepresent the deceased or her family. some apparent mourners have, in my view, missed the point. thanks to AAli and Marisa Maharaj for your sobering comments. they truly helped.
Jesus makes the difference
written by Naps girl of the '70s , August 14, 2010 I appreciate M Maharaj's comment. It is honest and speaks from the heart. Because we are Naps girls does not mean we are immune to all the emotions of Life. What made the difference for me at Naps was Youth For Christ. It was here in my first month of Naps I accepted Jesus Christ as my Saviour and found the true purpose of living. My worth was realized. I learned to dream. I came from a poor background and didn't have all the experiences and extras others had. I did well but did not do A-Levels. I put all I had gained from Naps into my children. My 2 older sons went to Naparima Boys and did well. My last child went to Pleasantville Junior Sec. The pressure was on him. But I insisted he would do well where ever he went. He was no less than my first 2 sons. The tension of being in a lesser school was thick and heavy at that first orientation mainly from the parents (whom I could sense were thinking "if only he / she had gone to a better school). After form 1 his math teacher wanted to get him a transfer to Presentation but I declined. Life at Junior Sec was difficult but I insisted he would do well where ever he went, and I stuck with him hand and foot. He stayed and excelled. He did Cape 1 this year and has excelled at Pleasantville Senior Comprehensive. Parents play a big part in a child accepting things they must face. This child's mother must have had to make great sacrifices for her. Going on that trip is certainly not cheap and actually getting to go is not something everyone is entitled to. This mother did a good job to get her child to this age. Reasons for committing suicide are many. Many of us have been there if we would admit it. It is our faith in God and knowing that all things work together for good to those who love God and are called to His purpose that will cause us to ponder a while and reason within ourselves and decide there is a greater purpose than exams and results. I bring to mind a story I heard of Miss Meghu one day seeing a girl fixing her name in newly cast concrete and telling her "if you study well and do well your name will go down in the history of the school and will not need to be written in the walkway". That need to 'be somebody important' has been created at Naps. Some people pursue it with passion. The scriptures tell us if we humble ourselves before God He will exalt us. Have we gone away from instilling the values of the Word of God into our children so they rely only on self to achieve and become, leaving out the input of our Creator. I remember worship every morning at Naps. this meant the world to me since I was not allowed to go to church and this was CHURCH to me. This involved the entire school and sometimes the children were the ones leading the worship and playing the piano for this (Carolyn Bally, Maureen Dee). Miss Wager was an important part of the school and children's lives and we could go over to her flat anytime to talk. Just knowing it was available was enough even though I never used the priviledge. Naps prepared women to be professionals but it also prepared us to be mothers and wives. Are they still doing this or is it only about scholarships. Will it be ok for a Naps girl to leave school at the end of form 5 and start a family if she wanted or is she going to feel pressured by her friends who all are becoming doctors and lawyers and made to feel inferior if because of ill health or other reasons she has a minimal wage job. We are all the same human component at the end of the day. We carry along the same emotions and feelings in our chest. We are equal in god's sight. Our children need to know this. They need to be taught how to live happy, fulfilled lives in the midst of adversity. The only way I know is Jesus Christ.
Reality
written by Christ child , August 14, 2010 See that last comment...thats more like it! love ur comment...with christ by ur side there's no need to even question life..leave it all up to HIM...give ur life to HIM..lets HIM guide ur steps. i keep thinking of tht song by Ras Shorty I.. "ah say yuh push de creator out, yuh didnt want He name in yuh mouth, SO YUH TAKE HIM OUTAH DE SKOOL CURRICULAR, yuh reapin de fruits of yuh actions..." just like in skools...we tend to lighty touch on faith...and faith in da only and living God...but i liked tht last comment...bcuz it was REAL...no beating around da bush..straight up realness...
to the reporter, an readers
written by A close friend , August 15, 2010 Im not writing to critize the reporter but instead to offer advise, kaly is one of my best friend an it sincerly hurts us all when you published this report soo incorrectly, the fact is her, music, boyfriend, nor grades had nothing to do with it because she did quite well, no one knows the real reason behind it an it hurts us all who are close to her to see her last image projected in this manner, to me sucide is not an option, an if she chose to do that then we can't judge her, especially if the reasons are bleak.... r.i.p kaly.....
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written by Marisa Maharaj , August 15, 2010 thanks for the kind responses to me. I didn't mean it to be about me and my experience. I was trying to give people a picture of what it feels like. I felt a bit bad after I posted this because I did not want to to come across like I was blaming the teachers who I think have good intentions. I wanted to add, I am surprised no one has asked where her father was. If people are going to blame the mother, I think it would be fair to treat the father the same as they would the mother. If it was the reverse situation and her mother had abandoned her or died and her father had raised her, I think everyone would say it's obvious that she's dead because she did not have a mother. How can a single mother do two parents' work ?
i know what she went through... but i got help an found a reason to go on..... couldn't she????
written by sunny , August 26, 2010 i know that it's hard in life at time and u'll fell like giving up is the easy way out.... but find a reason to live... a reason that will push you to do beter and stay with our loved ones andf friends..... cuz there's nothing i can think of that's sooo bad that u have to give up life all together than losing that reason to live.
woah!!!
written by potez , August 28, 2010 well.....daz rel criticism to the journalist yo... but newhoz.... daz rel hard.... if i found out all my effort put out into an exam and den i jus fail.... and iz like sumtin tht gna determine d rest of yuh life.... i wudda go crazy.......but iz relle sad to hear...... i hope she finds some peace..... my deepest condolences to her family...... :O
white12
written by white 12 , April 14, 2011 What a sad outcome for such a young lady and may she rest in peace. People like Shawn (Aug 13th 2010)and others do not have a clue what they are talking about.I am sure that Kalyzan was grateful for her life and absolutely was no way incompetent! To her it was a big deal, maybe she felt that she had let people down or was maybe depressed. Shawn says that maybe she wasn't brought up with the fear of god, is being brought up with the fear of god a happy existence? I thought god was supposed to be good and forgive?? Surely he is not someone to be feared but someone who would understand and reassure her? Are you a member of one of these weird cults cos you sure sound like you are! I agree that maybe her mothers expectations were too high, but we don't know that. I lost a friend, who was so lovely, after he killed himself before he had received his exam results many years ago....it turned out that he had done really well but his father was a schoolmaster who had put too much pressure on him and he became scared about whether he was going to live up to his fathers expectations. This is really sad because life is about being who you are and being happy and trying to achieve your goals, even if you don't manage it. Life is not about being scared of failing, being frightened of god or anything else!! Get a grip, stop judging people and if that's how god influences you, I suggest you ditch him!
white12
written by white 12 , April 14, 2011 Just visited Kalyzan's facebook page and I am wondering why when the photos she's had taken with her father, she is not smiling and has her hand and arm down between her legs! She is obviously not relaxed around him. Yet when looking at her photos with her friends she is happy and enjoying herself :( Write comment
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